Purdue program to help families deal with grief
WEST LAFAYETTE, Ind. — Families who have lost a loved one can find hope and support in their grief by connecting with other grieving families through a Purdue University program.
The BRIDGe, which stands for By Remembering I Develop and Grow, was developed in 2006 by Heather Servaty-Seib, an associate professor of educational studies in the College of Education. She is a counseling psychologist and specializes in grief and bereavement.
The program is a collaboration between the Purdue College of Education and Tippecanoe School Corp.
The BRIDGe allows grieving families with children in kindergarten through high school to connect with other grieving families and share their stories. The BRIDGe 2012 will meet weekly from 6-8 p.m. Feb. 21 through April 24 at Mayflower Mill Elementary School on County Road 500 South, near McCutcheon High School.
Servaty-Seib said families that are likely to benefit most are those that are at least two months away from their death loss.
"One of the biggest successes for me has been the positive feedback and appreciation from the families who have attended," Servaty-Seib said. "Many have commented that they wished the program could last longer, and they often stay in contact with one another after the program has ended. It means a lot that they have continued the connection that the BRIDGe allowed them to build with each other."
The program is free and open to any family willing to meet weekly. Each evening will begin with a meal followed by support group meetings by age group. Simultaneous groups are held for children ages 5-8, 9-12 and 13-18, and parents/caregivers.
The BRIDGe program:
* Provides grieving families with opportunities to connect with, receive support from and offer support to other grieving families.
* Encourages family members to talk openly with each other about their grief and about their loved one who died.
* Offers information about grief, including how children and teenagers grieve differently than adults.
* Uses activities to help grieving children, teenagers and adults learn more about their grief.
"Grief can be overwhelming because so many feelings and thoughts bombard us at once," Servaty-Seib said. "It also can be lonely because people grieve in unique and personal ways, and it is common for members of the same family to think, feel and act differently throughout their grief journeys."
As a part of the group sessions, children and teenagers engage in a variety of craft activities such as making collages, writing poetry and decorating a memory pillow. For adults, the focus is on discussing their thoughts and feelings and learning ideas for parenting grieving children.
Servaty-Seib said the BRIDGe offers a welcoming environment for children who have suffered a loss. Often, these children are afraid of being perceived as different, so connecting with other grieving children helps them realize that they are not alone, she said.
Graduate students enrolled in the College of Education's counseling programs facilitate the sessions. They have received special training in grief and are supervised by licensed counselors.
Children or teenagers attending the program must be accompanied by at least one parent or caregiver who will attend the adult group. Child care will be provided for children under age 5.
All families participate in an initial meeting with one of the BRIDGe staff in which background information is obtained and more details about the program are provided.
Interested families can contact Servaty-Seib at 765-494-9738, servaty@purdue.edu
Writer: Judith Barra Austin, 765-494-2432, jbaustin@purdue.edu
Source: Heather Servaty-Seib, 765-494-9738, servaty@purdue.edu