November 26, 2007
Aging improves parent, child relationships, research showsWEST LAFAYETTE, Ind. -
Karen Fingerman, an associate professor of developmental and family studies in the College of Consumer and Family Sciences, examined relationships adults 70 and older have with at least one of their adult offspring. The parents in the study also suffered either vision or hearing loss or were seeking help with general health care from one of their children.
"Much has been written about relationships between adult children who are in a care-giving relationship with their older and dependent parents," Fingerman said. "This time when parents are transitioning to old age and still living without major assistance has not been looked at as closely."
Fingerman said the study, which was recently published in the journal Advances in Life Course Research, showed that a majority of parents and children mentioned positive changes in their relationship, even as parents experienced declines in health.
"Both parents and children reported significantly less ambivalence than we originally expected," Fingerman said. "Generally, there was a feeling on both sides that this was as good as the relationship had been, and both sides felt appreciated and nurtured."
The study was funded by a combination of grants from the Brookdale Foundation and the National Institute of Aging.
Many of the parents talked about continuity in the relationship and, rather than resentment, expressed appreciation for increased help from children.
One of these, a 72-year-old man, commented on the relationship he has with his adult daughter.
"She has always cared about me," he said. "When I'm sick, she is always there. I don't have to ask. I've been very fortunate."
For the parents, their children's increasing roles in their lives served as proof of maturity and their own successful parenting.
A 72-year-old mother of a 40-year-old man said, "He bought a house. He has a significant other. He is busy. He works. He is very self-sufficient, and I am proud of him."
Fingerman said almost half of participants reported changes in the relationship, often related to tense interactions involving parental health.
"Some children reported pestering their parents more about health issues and being unsure if parents were ignoring them," Fingerman said. "While we expected that children might feel demanded upon or stressed by their parents' health declines, most of the participants focused on positive changes, such as trying harder to spend time together or talking more or feeling closer and appreciated."
Children were more likely to refer to declines in parental health (nearly half of adult children participating compared to just over a third of parents) than their parents. Both sides talked about increased assistance from children and the emotions associated with that, Fingerman said.
Fingerman said the research gives hope to parents and their adult children who are trying to adjust to the new demands parental aging can have on relationships.
"We must realize that parents don't go from being middle-aged to old and helpless," Fingerman said. "Parents and children are adjusting relatively well to the fact that parents are just not capable in the ways they once were."
Fingerman's current research, funded by the National Institutes of Health, examines the ways in which adults ages 40-60 help to meet the needs of both their grown children and elderly parents. The study looks at behaviors like offering advice, solving problems and performing needed tasks.
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Parents' and Offsprings' Perceptions of Change and Continuity when Parents Experience the Transition to Old Age
Karen L. Fingerman, Elizabeth L. Hay, Claire M. Kamp Dush, Kelly E. Cichy and Shelley J. Hosterman
Most parents and children are fortunate to share several decades of the life course when both parties are healthy adults. When parents reach the transition to old age, however, they typically experience health declines, and both parties must adjust to changes in the relationship. The sample included older adults (70+) suffering vision loss, hearing loss, or seeking general health care and a grown son or daughter (N=121 dyads, 242 individuals). Aging parents also suffered common health problems (e.g. hypertension, arthritis). Parents and offspring provided open-ended descriptions of changes and continuities in their relationship. Although prior studies link parental health declines to intergenerational ambivalence, most parents and offspring in this study mentioned positive changes in the relationship in recent years, regardless of parental health. Multilevel models revealed that perceptions of changes in parental health or receipt of support were associated with objective indicators of parental health. Findings suggest offspring's views of the relationship converge with parents' when parents reach the transition to old age and show physical signs of aging.
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