Asking For Help
Feburary 8, 2021
The demands on us at work, school, and home can be never-ending and overwhelming. Despite struggling, many people are hesitant to ask for help. We want to avoid being a nuisance.
Several weeks back, a neighbor saw that our home's siding on the second floor was falling out. They were kind enough to lend us an extension ladder to deal with the flapping.
Yet, I could not figure out how to use the extension ladder for the life of me. So I had a choice – should I ask for help from my neighbor, or should I continue to wrestle with the ladder?
The fascinating thing is that despite us making a big deal about asking for help – others are often more than happy to help. And, research shows that helping others promotes greater well-being for the helper. Asking for help can be an opportunity to enable someone else to experience positivity when they extend a hand.
Thinking about this, I decided that I should go ahead and text for help.
My handy neighbor was more than happy to come to my aid and share a gentle correction. I had the extension ladder placed upside down! In less than a moment, he got it up in a jiffy and pounded the unruly siding in.
I learned several things that day: ladders, kindness, and what a wonderful neighbor I have. But perhaps the most significant is that I should ask for help when I need it.
I hope this little snippet encourages you to ask for help in times of need!
Dr. Louis Tay
Tay is an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychological Sciences. He has expertise in well-being, assessments, and data science. Be sure to check back each week for another wellness tip of the week!
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