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Safety Tips

Tips for dating smart

  • Go on first dates with other people or meet in public places.  Always let your friends know where you are going and what time you should be back when on a date.
  • Make arrangements to have a way home that doesn’t depend on your date in case the date does not go in the direction you hoped it would.
  • Be alert and stay in control.  Alcohol and drugs inhibit your ability to make informed decisions.
  • Don’t accept a drink from a stranger or leave your drink unattended.  Make your own drink or closely observe when your drink is being made.
  • Let your partner know your limits.  No one can read your mind.  That brief moment of “awkwardness” when you let them know how far you are willing to go is far better than the feeling when things go too far.
  • Your limits are yours, and any discussion about changing them should be initiated by you, not your partner.
  • Be assertive.  No means no.  You are not being rude by saying no to someone sexually pressuring you. 

 

Tips for partying smart

  • When going as a group, agree to hold each person accountable for the whereabouts of each member.  Check in with each other periodically.
  • Be alert and stay in control.  Alcohol and drugs inhibit your ability to make informed decisions.
  • Carry a whistle or air horn.  Draw attention to yourself if you feel threatened.  Yell “Fire!” if you don’t have a whistle or air horn.
  • If you think someone put something in a friend’s drink, get him or her a new one or at least get rid of it, by any means necessary. “Accidently” spilling a drink could make a mess, but you also could be preventing a sexual assault.
  • If you aren’t sure everything is ok, ask.  Draw attention to the situation.  It may make the interaction uncomfortable, but being uncomfortable is better than staying silent and watching it happen.  

 

To respect sexual boundaries

  • Be alert and stay in control.  Alcohol and drugs inhibit your ability to make informed decisions.
  • If you aren’t certain if your partner wants to proceed, ask him or her.  Don’t assume that because your partner is silent, he or she is ok with it.
  • Minds change.  Even if your partner previously consented to sexual activity, this doesn’t imply consent for another time.  Always ask!
  • If your partner won’t answer with a definite yes when you ask for his or her consent for a sexual activity, then the answer is a no.  Don’t start or continue any sexual activity if your partner won’t give consent.
  • Go on first dates with other people or meet in public places.  Always let your friends know where you are going and what time you should be back when on a date.